Find something that does that for you a life preserver to keep you afloat until the deep darkness passes, something that is not dependent on a friend or loved ones words or actions because that is too much responsibility for anyone. Find a scripture, music, food, place, or maybe even a “timeout” like a weekend in a scrumptious spa because isn’t that part of what we are looking for, a break from our life and our daily selves? A break from pretending to be ok might be all we need. It can be a regular session with a therapist or support group. If those things are not working look outside of your normal life and find something you haven’t tried yet.
Get through the next hour, then the next 6 and then 6 more it may be all it takes to get past the dark overwhelming cloud.